Tuesday, June 17, 2008

6 by 6

Another group of lostbabymama's posted this 6 by 6 on their blog - http://www.glowinthewoods.com

1 In a word, how would you characterize yourself before your loss, and then after?

before - sarcastic .... after - bitter

2 How do you feel around pregnant women?

Anyone due around my due date (or who looks it) is just out of luck. I feel sad and angry around pregnant women. Much less so around those who I know had losses like mine.

3 How do you answer the 'how many children' question?

Sometimes, I mention Shannon. Most times not. It's hard because so few people knew that she was there before we lost her.

4 How did you explain what happened to your lost baby to your living children?

My son knows that he had a sister, who had an accident and died. He was very excited to be a big brother. He still asks questions, and we answer him. He is very curious about death, but that could just be because he is 5.

5 What would another pregnancy mean to you, and how would you get through it—or are you done with babymaking?

A health pregnancy would mean everything to me. It is what we are hoping for. I hope that I am not too old to do this again, and I hope I get my chance. I will get through it like MacGuyver, with chewing gum, tinfoil and a paper clip with which I will create an alternative universe where I will wake up in 9 months with a baby.

6 Imagine being able to step back in time and whisper into the ear of your past self the day after your baby died. What would you say?

I would say that it hurts a little less down the road and I would tell me not to go to the hibachi restaurant where they sing happy birthday every two minutes because it was my baby's birthday too and that really sucked.

1 comment:

sweetsalty kate said...

The last bit about the hibachi restaurant... that made me chuckle in a kinda morbid way, only because I know how things like that can strike you, and it just sucks. And your desire to be McGyver? I've never seen it put better.

I'm always heartened, too, to read of other mamas who have an older son or daughter, and who talk about their lost baby. Your son is so lucky to have you, that you give him the memories he needs, the legacy of his sister.

Thanks for doing this.