6 by 6

Another group of lostbabymama's posted this 6 by 6 on their blog - http://www.glowinthewoods.com

1 In a word, how would you characterize yourself before your loss, and then after?

before - sarcastic .... after - bitter

2 How do you feel around pregnant women?

Anyone due around my due date (or who looks it) is just out of luck. I feel sad and angry around pregnant women. Much less so around those who I know had losses like mine.

3 How do you answer the 'how many children' question?

Sometimes, I mention Shannon. Most times not. It's hard because so few people knew that she was there before we lost her.

4 How did you explain what happened to your lost baby to your living children?

My son knows that he had a sister, who had an accident and died. He was very excited to be a big brother. He still asks questions, and we answer him. He is very curious about death, but that could just be because he is 5.


5 What would another pregnancy mean to you, and how would you get through it—or are you done with babymaking?

A health pregnancy would mean everything to me. It is what we are hoping for. I hope that I am not too old to do this again, and I hope I get my chance. I will get through it like MacGuyver, with chewing gum, tinfoil and a paper clip with which I will create an alternative universe where I will wake up in 9 months with a baby.

6 Imagine being able to step back in time and whisper into the ear of your past self the day after your baby died. What would you say?

I would say that it hurts a little less down the road and I would tell me not to go to the hibachi restaurant where they sing happy birthday every two minutes because it was my baby's birthday too and that really sucked.